During this lockdown from March until current, I have watched a vast amount of videos and read more than what I ordinarily do; this, of course, is the result of being under the proverbial “lock and key.” Something has to occupy our minds, and social media plays a big role in that regard.
I have seen Tik Tok videos, cute baby videos, funny videos, and videos about racism, oppression and inequality. These videos are not new to me or others.
What is new to me are the videos showing “Karen” or “Chad” aka racist, anti-maskers having tantrums that would rival those of a two-year-old.
I have watched with a mixture of horror, dismay and anger boiling like a cauldron inside of me. Not because these people inhabit our world, but the level of rudeness and entitlement that they want to assert in every situation that they don’t like.
I have seen, primarily “Karen’s,” scream at the top of their voices, throw stuff at staff members, destroy property, spit on people and so on, simply because they can’t get their way. They aren’t fighting against police brutality, racism, inequality, gender-based violence or any of what you and I would deem worthy causes. They are doing all of the above to “not be compelled,” to wear a mask when entering an establishment and or to “check” on any black or brown person that they feel doesn’t belong where they are.
The irony has escaped them that it is they who don’t belong, but such is the level of entitlement that they enter your home or workplace and demand answers.
It got me thinking that if they are this destructive and often go viral on social media, what are they like in their own homes?
Is the possibility of embarrassing their partner or children by their disgusting behaviour not enough to deter them? Do they act like this in their own homes? Should they be like this in their homes, then all I picture are long-suffering, “hen-pecked” husbands; who only manage to occasionally mutter, “yes dear,” when they’re ranting, and children who are afraid to have honest conversations, for fear of raising their mothers’ ire.
What happened to social niceties? To politeness and mindfulness? Picture a Black or Brown woman doing a “Karen,” in public and see how racist comments would fly. She would be told that she is violent, barbaric, uncultured, and so on. The next step would be to dial 911 and set the police on “loudmouth Laquanda.”
These “Karens,” seem one step away from a total meltdown, and whilst I am not making light of any mental illness because there are, this doesn’t seem to be one of them. Unless you count tantrums and a sense of entitlement as a mental illness; it’s behaviour that is abhorrent and needs to stop. Children having meltdowns is perfectly understandable; adults refusing to wear a mask aren’t.
Yet, these are the same people prescribing and gaslighting black and brown people by pointing out their lack of manners.
How do they feel when they go home? Is “Dennis,” the long-suffering hubby meant to rush to her aid because she had such a ‘bad day,” and “everyone hates her?”
Nobody hates them except themselves! They have learned the art of manipulation, except that their manipulation can and often does have deadly consequences. These people have weaponized their tears. Maybe they were given everything as a child and not taught the valuable lessons we are taught to become productive citizens. Maybe, they feel it’s one of their white privileges not to consider others. Or perhaps they are just so filled with hate that invariably it spews out like sewerage from a blocked drain; spilling into the streets and infecting everything in their path.
What should happen is these women and men should be arrested and fined or compelled to do community work in marginalized areas so they can learn how to be grateful. Because it would seem that they don’t have manners and certainly no social etiquette; it’s pointless bringing out the fine china when you have the boss over for dinner, but you don’t know how to behave in public.
These meltdowns must be dealt with harshly and decisively to deter the next generation of “Karens and Chads,” from following in their footsteps.
“Good manners reflect something from the inside. An innate sense of consideration for others and respect of self.”