Your perspective gives birth to your reality:

This is key to understanding how you view the world and how you understand the world. It simply means that the way you view the world isn’t really how the world is, but rather how you are, according to NLP, Neuro-linguistic Programming, by authors Richard Bandler and John Grinder. Your uniqueness is what makes your world and what makes the world unique. It is much like one of my favourite saying that goes like this, “a thief views the world through his own eyes.” In practical terms, it can be argued that the thief sees everyone he meets as both a potential “mark” or as equally dishonest as him, therefore to the thief, the whole world is made up of other equally crooked people. 

The word “problem” in the Oxford advanced learners dictionary defines it as a “thing” that is very difficult to deal with in your life, thus it implies difficulties. The common synonyms are……

Why not call it a “situation” the Oxford advanced learners dictionary defines a situation as all the circumstances and things that are happening at a particular time and in a particular place. Surely this is what a “problem” really is? A not altogether unique situation which is a given set of circumstances that challenges you? 

Change your language and you change your world:

It is common knowledge that if you use certain words and phrases that are negatively oriented or negatively phrased, it has a bearing on how you view the world and informs your actions apropos how you deal with things. A risible example would be how you describe things and the tone that you employ at the time. Let’s suppose that a close friend was brutally murdered and you were tasked with conveying the message to family and friends, which message would be better received? “Amy was brutally raped, tortured and murdered last night by a gang of thugs,” or, our dearest friend and sister Amy tragically passed away last night and was a victim of a crime that plagues women in our society?”

The difference in impact is immediately noticeable from a point of view of the receiver, isn’t it? In the first example, the family and friends not only have to quickly process that Amy died before her time, but now also have to deal with the horrific circumstances of her death? In the latter example, the family and friends of Amy are given the opportunity of properly processing her sudden passing in a manner that is considerate and dignified? So how about spending a week or so identifying words that you use daily that can be substituted with other words to change your reality? If your reality changes, it can be said that your life circumstances changes? 

Change is a choice:

A simple as this truism sounds it is no less true than any other hackneyed truisms we have been bombarded with since our youth. Science with all of its successes hasn’t yet been able to fully understand the functions of the brain and how the mind works, but we do have some insights into how the mind works. We know that you can change the course of your life by choosing a different course of action or a different path. We know that any conscious decision whether well thought out or not has a direct positive or negative set of consequences in our lives.

Consider two fresh teens that have had equal opportunities in life, from equal backgrounds with similar education and roughly the same intellectual capacity. One night at a party, both of them are exposed to the latest fad drug by some seniors. The one chooses not to try it, and the other at the same whim chooses to use. The resulting consequences are catastrophic for the adventurous teen, his family and his opportunities for a successful life should he become hooked on the drug. This is not even debatable and in our fast-paced world, perhaps the best example of how simple choices can immediately alter the course of our lives. As mundane and even boring as it sounds, change is a choice, not your destiny.

“Take charge of your life because no else will as they’re already too busy with their own”